Far, far away I got lost in time,
Little did I know; of this journey
In as much as I wish to get home
Hitherto, the more impossible it
seems
My destination is not difficult to
preempt
Could you fault me when I’m only
human?
All I only dreamt of is to quench
this craving
Now here I stand, in the middle of
nowhere
May be I know, May be I Know not
Now I’m privileged to know better
But Hey, no test, no testimonies
All I can say is, I wish I never took
this trip.
Debatable is the perspective from various schools of thought
that addiction is solely associated with deviant persons arising out of a
deliberate act. I bet a differ, because this occurrence is natural in trait meaning any living thing is capable of exhibiting a peculiar
kind of addiction or other; regardless of age, gender, status, color, race,
species, literacy, creed , and so on… This nightmare doesn’t prevail merely as a
result of doing bad but also as in good.
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Many
questions but few candid answers in circulation out there; thus this article
seeks to bridge the prevailing difference via demystifying and dissemination of
shared knowledge and experiences on this site. “For the lack of knowledge people
perish, he who doesn’t know will now know”.
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Have you ever been an addict? …
A very
significant question to ask one’s self
I presume
you did say “NO”; by which means
you’re most likely to be wrong
WHAT IS ADDICTION?
It’s a
rational behavioral trait of adapting to the over reliance on temporal
satisfaction derived from exercising or usage of a peculiar instinct, activity,
habit, belief or item; over a consistent period of time. This exists advertently
or inadvertently and mostly substantially consequential; out of want or need. Definition
and emphasis mine.
Now let’s
take a cyclical analysis of how this behavioral trait originates and permeates.
Phenomenally,
there are (7) stages the first of which is highlighted below;
1.
NEEDS VS WANTS:
The foremost
essential catalyst to this process and outcome has got to do with our want and
need. Want and need always appear to impact the benefactor either temporarily
or infinitely.
Have you
ever pondered over the thought of your want and need not been the same? All other things being equal, I guess basic
economics will settle with my view that at a defined point in time what a man
want may not exactly be what he need and vice versa. No wonder Abraham Maslow’s
theory is focused on needs and not wants. Needless to say, one man’s want may be
another’s need and vice versa. Therefore, this assessment of need and want can
only be done based on some specific factors which will be taken care of in my
next article.
If the above
is true, then it’s more eminent to segregate this two in order to forestall the
prevalence of unfavorable outcomes arising out of wrong choices we make in
life.
It’s
therefore obvious why many prayers go unanswered or at best at latter. Because
if it is written in
Mathew 7:7-11~ “Ask, and it will be given to you;
seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.8“For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds,
and to him who knocks it will be opened.9“Or what man is there among you who, when his son asks for
a loaf, will give him a stone?10“Or if he asks for a fish, he will not give him a snake,
will he?11“If you then, being evil, know how to
give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in
heaven give what is “GOOD” to those who ask Him! (NIV).
Then, surely
something must account for the unanswered prayers. Well your guess is as good
as mine. Worthy to note is that, many a time the devil has parochial interest in our want, no wonder he is the prince of this
world. Sometimes the good Lord watches as we make this wrong choices just to
punish humanity for leaning on our own understanding, that notwithstanding
shows mercy at last.
In retrospect
to the above mentioned, I will like to enumerate some few scenarios below;
I.
Biblically, Adam and Eve chose the want of satisfying their curiosity over surviving on the need of knowing NO evil. The outcome obviously was very disastrous.
II.
Samson decided to meet his sexual desire over the need of keeping secret his weakness. What
happened? He fell terribly in the hands of the Philistines.
III.
Judas decided to quench his greediness for money over the need of been a brother’s keeper. What
happened? He became the bearer of great betrayal and a recipient of money he
couldn’t even spend.
IV.
In 2 Samuel 24:1-24, David decided to enumerate the army of Israel against the
need of relying on the unwavering force of God behind the army. What happened?
He incurred the wrath of God on a whole nation.
V.
In
today’s century, a young graduate
desires to meet the want of buying fancy cars when even he hasn’t met his
possible first need of shelter. What happens? He walks in the fast lane of
robbery, drugs, fraud, blood money…
VI.
How
about a young enterprising family man
so much in love with the quest for money. What happens? He forgets about his
family, health, parenting, spiritual commitment etc… things go bad before he
realizes.
VII.
A preacher man follows his want of been
seen so committed and responsible towards his flock. What happens? He neglects
his wife to the exposure of other men, lack of parenting so children go
wayward, broken home etc.
VIII.
A man constantly wants to take bottles of
alcoholic drink. What happens? He
becomes a drunkard, acquires bad breathe & health and messes up his family.
IX.
Is
good to eat but too much of everything is bad. A man eats too much of a particular food and becomes a freaky eater who
bloats and becomes health hazardous... (CHECK
FREAKY EATERS TV DOCUMENTARY).
X.
A
young lady meets her want of dressing secularly
instead of the need of taking good care of her appearances. What happens?
She attracts unqualified suitors leading to series of sexual abuse, rape, heart
break, teenage pregnancy, abortion, maternal death etc…
CONTRARY;
Joseph
responded to the need of respecting and serving his master faithfully by not
satisfying the queen’s sexual want. What happened? He went through a very
painful ordeal but at last made a ruler of a foreign land, something I’m sure
he neither desired wanting nor needing.
One fact
remains; sometimes God in his own wisdom and mercy overlooks our wrong choices
and still make us prosperous. Funny enough to note is that this is very rare.
Typical example is what Josephs’ brothers did yet became immense beneficiaries
of their wrong choice.
TRUE
LIFE STORY:
A man
spent 7 months showing affection towards a woman he wants but never received the
reciprocal, he meets another in just 7days he receives great attention he has
dreamt of all this while. The want was
never met the whole 7 months because maybe it wasn’t a need for him then, now
there is answered prayer because God knows he needs the affection now. What a
mighty God we serve, he who answers to our needs and not to our wants; in his
own chosen time.
BACK FOR GOOD, watch out for;
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FORMS OF
ADDICTION
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HOW TO
SEGREGATE NEED FROM WANT &
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HOW TO
IDENTIFY AND CONTROL ADDICTION
Check these out;
I’m admonishing everyone to be @liberty
in sharing experiences & views on this page to encourage shared knowledge &
solutions for the benefit of all.
Visit Website: ebenezer.adokwei@blogspot.com
“Unless a man learns to segregate his
needs from wants, he will never prioritize right nor prosperitize”
~NII ADDO ADOKWEI~
